Will it go 'round in circles?
Apr 30, 2010
Even as a 70-year-old grandmother, Daisy Waring admits she's still learning about herself. This lesson, though, comes at a high price.
Her grandson, Byron Lamar Waring, is on death row for the 2005 Raleigh stabbing death of Lauren Redman.
No one talks about it in her small town of Eutawville, S.C. So she kept her sadness and depression bottled up. She felt alone.
Waring first learned about healing circles while attending a conference in 2007 for those like her. The tradition has been used for centuries to resolve conflict and make important community decisions.
Healing circles have helped Waring so much that she travels to Durham every December for an event sponsored by the Capital Restorative Justice Project.
"It really helped me to grow because I really felt empty," Waring said. "Cried all the time. When I leave them, I have hope that it's going to be all right.
"It's an ongoing thing, but every day it gets better, and I'm learning to cope from it."
....Like Waring, healing circles have forced Effie Steele, whose daughter was murdered in 2007, to confront some of her anger, hurt and grief. She experienced her first healing circle last year during a restorative justice conference.
"At first it was like no big deal, but then when you get the object that you hold, you get all of these emotions," she said. "For me, it just floods and floods emotions.
"And hearing everybody else's story and knowing that you can only talk when you have the object yourself, it was quite different," she added. "When you hear someone else's story, you want to say, 'Yeah it happened to me.' It gives the person free range to let their feelings out and express themselves."